Miss Manners: Finding peace with your sister’s fashion choice at a wedding

Sad wedding guest (Getty Images)

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DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have seen it confirmed by multiple authorities lately that the not-bride just does not wear white to a wedding. So what should I have done when my sister showed up at my daughter’s wedding wearing a pure white dress of a lacelike material?

I tried to ignore it at the time, knowing the enormous scene my sister would make if I tried to throw her out. But all these years later, I still berate myself for having failed my daughter on her day.

GENTLE READER: Your conscience is out of whack. You should have harbored guilt if you did cause a scene at your daughter’s wedding, not if you politely refrained from doing so.

That you are still mad at your sister is a different issue. Miss Manners advises you to take comfort in knowing that no one mistook her for the bride, and some may have been amused at the attempt.

(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)



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